Since this is “Abnormal Astrology”, I think it’s okay for me to divulge that I am…in a dark place at the moment. In order to get my friend to understand, I told her the same way she feels when communication breaks down and she feels stifled and can’t express herself is the same way I feel when my work situation isn’t good. A light bulb went off in that moment, and her big eyes sprung open, and she said, “That’s terrible!”
How did I know what to compare it to for her to understand? Why the glorious Sun of course! This is one of those situations where you need to know what time you were born because it is based on which House your natal Sun lives. Mine lives in the 10th House, which rules career. My friend’s Sun (and a bunch of her other planets) lives in the 3rd House, which rules communication. Where your Sun makes its home is where you have your sense of purpose. It is essentially your home as well. And when your home falls apart in your life, it feels like everything else breaks down, too, and it actually might be the case.
I have a couple of friends whose Suns are in the 7th House, and they are serial monogamists. They are both in good places right now because they are in stable, long-term relationships. When they weren’t in relationships, it always felt like something was missing. When they were in shitty relationships, everything crumbled as well. Crumbled like whoa. Oh, but Abby, doesn’t that apply to everyone? Um, no. Yes, it is shitty for anyone to be in a shitty relationship, but my point is for people with a natal Sun in the 7th House, their whole fucking world feels like it is caving.
One of my best friends is fine without being in a relationship. She doesn’t actively seek it out, and she has been single for as long as I have known her. Does she enjoy being alone? Hell no. Her Sun is in the 11th House, the House of Friendship. When she finally got a job and moved out on her own, something was keeping her from being happy. She didn’t have as much time to be sociable, and that was what she always commented on. Where your Sun lives, tells us your MO.
This is why Astrology is so great. Look at a person’s chart, and you already know what makes them tick, what pushes them through life. I tell people that letting me see their chart is more exposing than letting me see them naked.